How should you organize the Swinger Parties?

Myth #3: Sexual desire can be assessed and measured. Ever notice how, when we hear sex discussed in the media, the focus is mostly on the quantity and frequency? “How many times a week do you have sex?” “How often do you have orgasms?” The impression that we get is that desire can somehow be measured, quantified, and reduced to a simple formula. Nothing could be further from the truth. Desire is alive and vibrant. It has its highs and lows; it moves, shifts and grows, just like your relationship does – just like you do.

You have been pretty naïve throughout your relationship, and now you're getting a painful education. You've fallen for the myth that says that you have to have a sex drive to have sex. In long term relationships you have sex because it feels good and it's good for your marriage, not because you're driven to have it.

Dry each other with soft, warm towels and then continue your foreplay in the bedroom. Here you will want to use massage oils. Take turns giving each other full body massages and/or a Yoni massage. Indulge each other in pure physical pleasure without expectation. Concentrate on relaxing and experiencing the ecstasy and healing power of touch. You might like to include a soft feather in the massage. Trace your partner's body with the feather allowing it to glide slowly and softly over her tummy, breasts and nipples. Her face will tell you if she is enjoying the journey. When using massage oil always use a liberal amount. You can never use too much. You may wish to lay a towel beneath the receiver for comfort purposes and to catch any drips. Keep the room warm and comfortable.

According to the kama sutra: " no part of the beloved's body should be neglected. Her lover should make it his duty to discover them and to reveal to his mistress all the pleasure she can receive from them"

"Well, this is why men keep leaving you after sex. We attract people at our common level of woundedness. You are needy - looking for someone to love you and make you feel okay. As long as you are needy, you will attract another needy person. Like you, he is also hoping that you will fill him up and make him feel good. He is hoping that sex will do this for him, and when it doesn't, he moves on. And it never can, since feeling loved and full and good inside comes from loving ourselves - not from being loved or from having sex.

It’s true that the sex toy industry used to be primarily female-focused. And while sex toys make pleasure and orgasms more accessible for many women, the industry is now catching up with its male clients, as well. Sex toys now add pleasure to both solo and partner sex, and the latest innovations even allow a couple to pleasure each other from different locations across the globe.